Second Chances

“Once a cheater, always a cheater”

This saying is pretty blatant and is such a very strong phrase. Though many have proven it to be wrong, there are still people who cheat continuously despite the fact that they have been forgiven so many times. I have a good friend who had a long – time girlfriend who somehow grew tired of their relationship and looked for someone to spice it up a little bit. Their old routine did not work out somehow.

She went her own way but still managed to keep her relationship. She hid this relationship with a new guy for more than 6 months. She went all out with this new guy. They had fun at movies, parks, amusement parks and they even had sex several times. I felt pretty worried for my friend. He did not know that this day could happen. He exposed this relationship through his undeniable grasp of technology. He was hurt. He cried for several days but still managed to accept the woman that he loves. He gave her a second chance. They went steady for the next couple of months but it happened again. Without second thoughts, he gave her another chance.

His story depicts a very sad scenario of a man who is in love. He managed to keep the things that the woman he loved did to him at the back of his head and still followed what his heart felt. If most men act this way, will they get abused? How should men teach the woman that they love a lesson? Should they just leave them behind? What about the love that they feel in their hearts? Should they just let it go?

I was talking to a therapist last time I had the same problem and he told me something that I really did not want to hear. He told me to leave everything behind and start something new. It was something that I did not want to do since I do not want to step out of my comfort zone. But somehow, there are instances that you really have to get out of the box, experience the deep pain and start moving on. In my case, I did not even try to do that. Why? Because I had faith in her. I had faith that she would come to her senses and fulfill every promise that she made. Maybe that is the true essence of second chances – faith.